That's wonderful! I always have much more fun with games when I'm sharing it with someone. I always let my boyfriend choose the names in my main family since I made us the founders.
He gets random messages on his cellphone at work such as "Congrats on your new great-grandson, his name is Alphi, what do you want to change it to?"
I was reading these posts about boyfriends and husbands and it turns out I started the game the same way Lyssaria did - for my first generation we got a couple that kinda looked like us (me and my husband).
Now, we decide everything: who to adopt, every time a child is born we decide the name (if we are going to change the game name or not), marriage proposals.... So he kind of play the game with me.
Oh, and about the colour haired girls, I had Janis who had coloured hair, but all the children were "normal". Now my couple adopted a blue-haired girl (Bluey) and she's going to inherit the house - let's see what happens.